I worked on a project with colleagues (Drs. Robert Hughes, Kale Monk, and Jeremy Kanter) when at the University of Illinois. We asked college students, who were between 18 and 25 years old about their experiences with divorce and separation of their parents. For some, their parents divorced more recently; others, however, experienced the divorce of their parents when they were quite young. At the same time, they all struggled with very similar things over the years regardless of the age they were when their parent's divorced.
WHAT YOUTH SAY THEY STRUGGLED WITH FOLLWOING THEIR PARENT'S SEPARATION AND DIVORCE
Getting caught in the middle of arguments
Parents talking about other parent
Parents' new relationships
HOW YOUTH SAY THEY FELT
Worried about future and about parent's feelings
Abandoned by one parent
Embarrassed to tell others
A variety of resources exist that can help parents to navigate their divorce, so that they can effectively support their children through this difficult time. Many children and youth may benefit from therapy to help them through the transition. Children who have friends who have divorced parents can also be a resources to youth (e.g., Hetherington).